Save Indian Family
Save Indian Family Foundation came into existence to provide support to harassed husband and victimized families. The people who formed this organization were harassed husbands. They began a systematic well-planned approach in addressing issues concerning harassed husbands, and their efforts soon paid off.
There are hundreds of women organizations and most of them are government-funded. When a husband is harassed by his wife, there is absolutely no recourse for the husband. Formation of Save Indian Family was the only last resort for these harassed husbands who had and still have no where to go for support. They had no choice but to fight head on. Formation of SIF was out of pure necessity. Now SIF is a fully integrated group of people coming from varied backgrounds from different countries contributing their expertise for the welfare of the society.
But, the efforts of the few members of SIF paid off more quickly than expected. Within a short span of time, the members grew from 10 to more than 800. Even the members who formed the organization were astonished to observe the rampant misuse of law by women and how these husbands and his parents are abandoned miserably by the legal system. They then decided to fight back against this injustice instead of burying their sufferings in the past like many thousands of men did in similar cases.
With the increasing number of members joining in, they did a commendable job of increasing awareness on a global level. However, there were plentiful of lucky people out there who apparently, enjoyed naming the organization as anti-women. If an organization is fighting against injustice is called anti-women, then what would they call hundreds of women organizations? These statements are given only when one wants to defend their wrongdoings. Women, understandably, disliked the activities of SIF for the simple reason that awareness of misuse of laws will only jeopardize the legal freedom of women to accuse anybody.
Many people even doubt the statistical reports provided by the SIF. Unfortunately, SIF has not yet conducted a large scale survey, which will not only unearth the massive misuse of laws by women but also reveal the selfish intentions of women organizations to keep mum on the issue. SIF has always relied on genuine sources of statistics and have presented to the people for awareness. None of the reports presented by SIF are fabricated, and those who don’t believe are the ones who don’t want SIF to blow up their secrets.
Most people come back by saying that dowry death, dowry harassment is still going on and therefore, the claims of SIF are exaggerated. Majority of the SIF members had the same belief that when dowry death/harassment is still there, then why is there a need to protect men. But, after knowing the reality, they had to change their views.
Women have become an important factor of vote bank politics.They have become a part of political correctness, which is bad news for the society. Women organization are only concerned with extracting legal rights for women to an extent that male-gender get enslaved under women power. False cases are rampant and police, lawyers too confirm but these women organization, especially the government-funded, clearly stipulates to the police, judiciary and media to give justice only to women. Now the media, police and lawyers can either earn their livelihood by following their orders or face suspension. What will they do? They can’t mess around with women organizations that are government-funded. And in this process, innocent people are victimized.
It is also true that most cases of women, which can categorically be excluded from dowry death/ harassment report, are inappropriately documented under dowry death/harassment. This misappropriation of documentation of women cases by the police on the instruction of women organization is the reason why dowry death/harassment cases are higher. Besides, dowry harassment cases also include those false cases where the husband and his parents have not demanded any dowry nor harassed any woman.
What will a common man do then? These harassed husband have no where to go for justice. And when organization like SIF comes into existence to provide solace and support to these harassed husbands, some people misconstrue their conviction as anti-women. Then in that case all women organizations are anti-men. If women organizations are, as perceived, supporting women issues, then SIF is supporting harassed husband. What is wrong in that? Why is there a feeling of apprehension in the people? Apprehension only shows that they have something to hide and don’t want SIF to unmask it out in the open.
Resistance from some people is bound to come in the form of criticism and sarcasm to defame SIF. SIF would have disappeared and pack their bags long back if their convictions were based on falsehood. SIF is still there and growing by leaps and bounds is a clear proof that SIF is fighting against injustice and not against female-gender. SIF is here to stay and will only spread its wings far and wide to provide necessary support to those harassed husband and victimized families.
Saturday, January 26, 2008
Friday, January 25, 2008
Narcissists Modern Indian Women
Q. I can't get enough of men. I have to look at every man who walks by. I flirt, I keep in touch with past boyfriends, I make new ones, and I browse for men online. I get up to 20 e-mails a day from my men. Once I have seduced them online, they are dying to meet me and usually sleep with me on the first date. Then I find the simplest flaw and use that against them to break it off. They are devastated. They feel I have used them sexually, and they are right.
The kicker is that I have done it ever since I was in a steady relationship with my 1st through umpteenth boyfriend and in every marriage that I have been in. At school, my friends credited me with having a brilliantly devious mind. My mother and sister knew about all this and helped me every time I needed to have an unwanted pregnancy terminated or needed to trap an elusive man. My new boyfriend is very rich, good-looking, and intelligent and we have a good sex life. I am 42. We have been together for 2 months; his wife is my friend and does not even know about our affair. I, however, still need a constant rotation of new men. I just can't stop seducing other men and having sex with them. Nor do I want to, because I am having the time of my life.
This has at times affected my job, but only when I have a female boss who cannot be befooled and because it is so time-consuming. Typically, it takes three hours a day to write to men. Then I make phone calls to those on the rotation for that day. Then I e-mail again for another three hours. However, while I was married, I could only do that after my husband went to bed. Then I do a few hours of research for new men.
I have slept with an untold number of men. I would not call it an addiction because I like it so much and it makes me happy to meet them, seduce them, sleep with them and, yes, even break up with them. This week I will hit my all-time record of sleeping with 3 different men. They are all wealthy, intelligent and successful, and they all think we will live happily ever after. They have no idea that I am sleeping with so many other men, let alone married. I know hurting them emotionally is bad. I just can't stop. To me it is all fair "game" as long as it is consensual.
For me, it is not simply the "sex" it is the seduction, and the mental gamesand pleasure I receive from this. To seduce a man to the point where he really wants to have sex with me is very stimulating to me. It is like I have scored a six in the last few seconds of a cricket match. I have gotten so good at the after game as well that I make only one call or e-mail. You are not what I was looking for. Please don't write me anymore. I never hear from them again. I find myself so manipulative it scares me sometimes but I know that even if caught, I will get away because people can never disbelieve a woman.
Part of the game, too, is being so manipulative with my mate that it feels like directing an orchestra. Move him here, date the husband, sleep with the boyfriend, get a new boyfriend, and slot him in for Tuesday or at times fix him up with one of my girlfriends.
Can you please give me some insight into what is going on ?
A. I think you are a sex addict and a narcissitic sociopath.What you describe is sexual addiction. Like any addict, you have a feedback loop that provides you with positive reinforcement every time you make a conquest - hence your comparison to a winning touchdown in the big game. This gives you a dopamine high (dopamine being the neurotransmitter involved in pleasure and reward). It is also involved in sexual activity and addictive behaviors like compulsive gambling.
What is so very disturbing is your complete lack of guilt, remorse or empathy for the other parties involved. You know intellectually that this is bad behavior, because you are aware you are betraying your spouse and hurting all the other men you deal with. Yet it seems that you understand this only on a purely observational level.It sounds as though you have no capacity for emotion. You lack any ability to hold yourself morally accountable for your dishonest and harmful actions. You are easily able to rationalize hurting and mistreating others, whether they are strangers or relatives. In fact, you take pleasure in it.
Hence, I also think you are a sociopath, with an utter lack of concern and regard for others. I suspect there are additional areas of your life where you repeatedly break the rules or injure others with no concern for the consequences. You might well destroy every relationship you get into and your job. You are leaving a wake of destruction.
For your own sake and for the sake of everyone else unfortunate enough to have their lives intersect with yours, you need help. If you don't stop this behavior, you will likely contract a disease, get yourself arrested or enrage someone so much that you are harmed. If you want to try living a normal life - something beyond a life governed by sexual addiction - you need treatment, either individual treatment or group treatment.
To the readers: Narcissists like this are often charming and charismatic. As you can see, this woman has no trouble duping people and racking up innumerable conquests. If you encounter somebody like this, I suggest you get away as quickly as possible.The Psychiatrist's Bottom Line: Narcissistic and sociopath sex addicts behave in ways that violate social norms and will file false cases when they want to get away with their crimes.
The kicker is that I have done it ever since I was in a steady relationship with my 1st through umpteenth boyfriend and in every marriage that I have been in. At school, my friends credited me with having a brilliantly devious mind. My mother and sister knew about all this and helped me every time I needed to have an unwanted pregnancy terminated or needed to trap an elusive man. My new boyfriend is very rich, good-looking, and intelligent and we have a good sex life. I am 42. We have been together for 2 months; his wife is my friend and does not even know about our affair. I, however, still need a constant rotation of new men. I just can't stop seducing other men and having sex with them. Nor do I want to, because I am having the time of my life.
This has at times affected my job, but only when I have a female boss who cannot be befooled and because it is so time-consuming. Typically, it takes three hours a day to write to men. Then I make phone calls to those on the rotation for that day. Then I e-mail again for another three hours. However, while I was married, I could only do that after my husband went to bed. Then I do a few hours of research for new men.
I have slept with an untold number of men. I would not call it an addiction because I like it so much and it makes me happy to meet them, seduce them, sleep with them and, yes, even break up with them. This week I will hit my all-time record of sleeping with 3 different men. They are all wealthy, intelligent and successful, and they all think we will live happily ever after. They have no idea that I am sleeping with so many other men, let alone married. I know hurting them emotionally is bad. I just can't stop. To me it is all fair "game" as long as it is consensual.
For me, it is not simply the "sex" it is the seduction, and the mental gamesand pleasure I receive from this. To seduce a man to the point where he really wants to have sex with me is very stimulating to me. It is like I have scored a six in the last few seconds of a cricket match. I have gotten so good at the after game as well that I make only one call or e-mail. You are not what I was looking for. Please don't write me anymore. I never hear from them again. I find myself so manipulative it scares me sometimes but I know that even if caught, I will get away because people can never disbelieve a woman.
Part of the game, too, is being so manipulative with my mate that it feels like directing an orchestra. Move him here, date the husband, sleep with the boyfriend, get a new boyfriend, and slot him in for Tuesday or at times fix him up with one of my girlfriends.
Can you please give me some insight into what is going on ?
A. I think you are a sex addict and a narcissitic sociopath.What you describe is sexual addiction. Like any addict, you have a feedback loop that provides you with positive reinforcement every time you make a conquest - hence your comparison to a winning touchdown in the big game. This gives you a dopamine high (dopamine being the neurotransmitter involved in pleasure and reward). It is also involved in sexual activity and addictive behaviors like compulsive gambling.
What is so very disturbing is your complete lack of guilt, remorse or empathy for the other parties involved. You know intellectually that this is bad behavior, because you are aware you are betraying your spouse and hurting all the other men you deal with. Yet it seems that you understand this only on a purely observational level.It sounds as though you have no capacity for emotion. You lack any ability to hold yourself morally accountable for your dishonest and harmful actions. You are easily able to rationalize hurting and mistreating others, whether they are strangers or relatives. In fact, you take pleasure in it.
Hence, I also think you are a sociopath, with an utter lack of concern and regard for others. I suspect there are additional areas of your life where you repeatedly break the rules or injure others with no concern for the consequences. You might well destroy every relationship you get into and your job. You are leaving a wake of destruction.
For your own sake and for the sake of everyone else unfortunate enough to have their lives intersect with yours, you need help. If you don't stop this behavior, you will likely contract a disease, get yourself arrested or enrage someone so much that you are harmed. If you want to try living a normal life - something beyond a life governed by sexual addiction - you need treatment, either individual treatment or group treatment.
To the readers: Narcissists like this are often charming and charismatic. As you can see, this woman has no trouble duping people and racking up innumerable conquests. If you encounter somebody like this, I suggest you get away as quickly as possible.The Psychiatrist's Bottom Line: Narcissistic and sociopath sex addicts behave in ways that violate social norms and will file false cases when they want to get away with their crimes.
Sec 498a -India’s Legal Tools of Extortion
When the abusive Indian wives/ex-wives are asked to stop their bad behavior they misuse IPC 498A and DV Act. Every one of them will have concocted a reason for doing so. Sometimes they will cry in order to cover up on their lies and gain public sympathy (Famous Pooja Chauhan).
At other times they will march semi-naked after informing the media beforehand. How dare the husband and in-laws question their behavior? They should know better than that!
They assume that it is their right to abuse the husband and in-laws simply because the law has empowered them with certain rights. These rights are the "Legal tools" to extort money (dowry law / domestic violence / alimony / rape case / sexual harassment) that were provided to them by a weak kneed legislature (that just wants to hold on to their seat/gaddi and fill their coffers) succumbed to pressure from the feminists groups. It is obvious that the leaders of the feminist groups (male hating divorcees/spinsters/lesbian) do not believe in the sanctity of the institution of marriage and simply want to destroy the Indian Family.
If any women is having problem with her Marriage, by filling such cases like dowry or Dv, will not solve their problems than getting divorce and force men to pay huge amount of alimony, by blackmailing with these laws. Because it is impossible to prove which is already false, for Indian judiciary whatever women says is right, so she can allege anything, they can blame with any false information and authority never try to find out the truth. As women are notorious to cry and make s such hue and cry to show she is right and all will believe in her words, proving wrong such dramatic scène is almost impossible. This affects those men who has not much influence in police or politics, mostly they are working classes.
Just looking at the numerous true cases that were filed against the members of the legislature where the police refused to file the complaints and if the complaints were filed, the Courts disposed them off within 6 months makes it obvious that the members of the legislature know that they are above the purview of all the bad laws that they have enacted (because even if true cases are filed against them, they can get away). Therefore, the legislature (rather than face dharnas and gheraos by the abusive women's unions whose leaders are their colleagues in the legislature and bail out the errant ministers in times of need) turns a blind eye towards the misuse of such laws by abusive women.
Therefore, abusive women will continue to misuse 498a and other gender-biased laws to show that they have the ability to continue their abuse and make their victims look like criminals, so that they can get revenge from the victim who dared challenge them and simultaneously secure their financial future thereafter. After all, it is all "Tax Free Money from Heaven" and it is their birthright and their golden goose.
Most such women have an abusive personality and a filthy past. When the husband or in-laws can no longer tolerate the abusive behavior of such women and chance upon the dirty secrets of such women, they then want the privilege of being a lady despite their un-ladylike behavior.
This is known as having your cake and eating it too!It is easy to make out who is abusive women, by checking all who filed 498a, they were abusive in their relation, marriage, at home; now they want to break away harassing husband with these pro women laws
What do the abusive Indian women allege upon their husbands and in-laws?They allege that their husband is immoral and in-laws are criminals.They file false criminal cases against their husbands/in-laws to harass and extort.They do so simply to further their abuse and get a large settlement from the man.
Whom do such abusive women pick on? According to a survey, most abusive Indian women typically pick on wealthy husbands and in-laws who have no legal/political/bureaucratic connections (like Arjun singh-A case under the Anti-Dowry Act has been registered against Union HRD Minister Arjun Singh, his wife Beena Singh, son Abhimanyu Singh, grandson Abhijeet Singh and three others at a police station on Sunday, police said on 30 July 2007).A man who has unmarried female siblings and elderly parents is harassed more.
Generally, children from small nuclear and respected families that have a decent image in the society and have the most to lose.Who helps these abusive women ?Women's organizations like the NCW, NGO's and some other organizations will gladly help the abusive women with political/ legal/bureaucratic connections.The lawyers and police help such women especially if they see a chance to make easy money.
Statistics says in 2004, 1,34,757 men held but only 5,739 men convicted, and 10,491 cases were not charge sheeted as they were based on frivolous grounds. it clearly shows that only 5% complaints are true and all others used to extort money or blackmail men in their Divorce or alimony.
At other times they will march semi-naked after informing the media beforehand. How dare the husband and in-laws question their behavior? They should know better than that!
They assume that it is their right to abuse the husband and in-laws simply because the law has empowered them with certain rights. These rights are the "Legal tools" to extort money (dowry law / domestic violence / alimony / rape case / sexual harassment) that were provided to them by a weak kneed legislature (that just wants to hold on to their seat/gaddi and fill their coffers) succumbed to pressure from the feminists groups. It is obvious that the leaders of the feminist groups (male hating divorcees/spinsters/lesbian) do not believe in the sanctity of the institution of marriage and simply want to destroy the Indian Family.
If any women is having problem with her Marriage, by filling such cases like dowry or Dv, will not solve their problems than getting divorce and force men to pay huge amount of alimony, by blackmailing with these laws. Because it is impossible to prove which is already false, for Indian judiciary whatever women says is right, so she can allege anything, they can blame with any false information and authority never try to find out the truth. As women are notorious to cry and make s such hue and cry to show she is right and all will believe in her words, proving wrong such dramatic scène is almost impossible. This affects those men who has not much influence in police or politics, mostly they are working classes.
Just looking at the numerous true cases that were filed against the members of the legislature where the police refused to file the complaints and if the complaints were filed, the Courts disposed them off within 6 months makes it obvious that the members of the legislature know that they are above the purview of all the bad laws that they have enacted (because even if true cases are filed against them, they can get away). Therefore, the legislature (rather than face dharnas and gheraos by the abusive women's unions whose leaders are their colleagues in the legislature and bail out the errant ministers in times of need) turns a blind eye towards the misuse of such laws by abusive women.
Therefore, abusive women will continue to misuse 498a and other gender-biased laws to show that they have the ability to continue their abuse and make their victims look like criminals, so that they can get revenge from the victim who dared challenge them and simultaneously secure their financial future thereafter. After all, it is all "Tax Free Money from Heaven" and it is their birthright and their golden goose.
Most such women have an abusive personality and a filthy past. When the husband or in-laws can no longer tolerate the abusive behavior of such women and chance upon the dirty secrets of such women, they then want the privilege of being a lady despite their un-ladylike behavior.
This is known as having your cake and eating it too!It is easy to make out who is abusive women, by checking all who filed 498a, they were abusive in their relation, marriage, at home; now they want to break away harassing husband with these pro women laws
What do the abusive Indian women allege upon their husbands and in-laws?They allege that their husband is immoral and in-laws are criminals.They file false criminal cases against their husbands/in-laws to harass and extort.They do so simply to further their abuse and get a large settlement from the man.
Whom do such abusive women pick on? According to a survey, most abusive Indian women typically pick on wealthy husbands and in-laws who have no legal/political/bureaucratic connections (like Arjun singh-A case under the Anti-Dowry Act has been registered against Union HRD Minister Arjun Singh, his wife Beena Singh, son Abhimanyu Singh, grandson Abhijeet Singh and three others at a police station on Sunday, police said on 30 July 2007).A man who has unmarried female siblings and elderly parents is harassed more.
Generally, children from small nuclear and respected families that have a decent image in the society and have the most to lose.Who helps these abusive women ?Women's organizations like the NCW, NGO's and some other organizations will gladly help the abusive women with political/ legal/bureaucratic connections.The lawyers and police help such women especially if they see a chance to make easy money.
Statistics says in 2004, 1,34,757 men held but only 5,739 men convicted, and 10,491 cases were not charge sheeted as they were based on frivolous grounds. it clearly shows that only 5% complaints are true and all others used to extort money or blackmail men in their Divorce or alimony.
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